On Monday, at 10:24 am, my friend and fellow pastor Kurt Glancy died unexpectedly from a heart attack. I invested in 6 great years of ministry with Kurt. He was only forty-one.
He was a strong, soft-spoken follower of Jesus Christ. He was one of the best husbands and dads I know. Not that he had to tell you that. You just knew it was true. He is survived by his wife Lis and two sons Will and Andrew.
Kurt was a kindred spirit in this sense: We were fellow western Pennsylvanians living in the flatlands of west central Indiana. I knew his hometown Meadville, PA, and he knew mine Hermitage PA, and we met in Crawfordsville Indiana…
Kurt was my friend in community. In honoring him, I feel like it is important that you understand what I mean by that.
He was in my life as one friend in a rich tapestry of friends, who together, were part of something very special.
In the summer of 2001, Jolynn and I moved to Crawfordsville Indiana, with little experience, less maturity, and lots of passion, we stepped into a dying church, joining some people who were already asking God to blow on the cold coals.
God did, and from there, we just tried to keep up with the flames.
We…
Brothers and sisters who are as close to me as any family. Who helped me grow up, held me accountable. Who helped me raise my kids, love my wife, hang drywall, do plumbing, fix cars. Who hunted with me, prayed, cried and laughed a lot with me. Broke bread with me. Celebrated holidays, birthdays, cheered the Colts, went to Pacer games and concerts with me, vacations and fishing trips…
People who in a very significant way, made me the man I am today.
And Kurt was one of those brothers.
Slowly, some of us trickled away from that place. Jolynn and me back here to Pennsylvania. Another friend moved to Michigan…Yet returning has always been a sweet and easy slide back into the lives of people who know us as well as anyone on this planet.
But now that will be ever less sweet for Kurt is gone. And I'm sure I will cry a lot at his funeral, and part of me will cry a little every time I drive into Crawfordsville. Without Kurt, it is not quite right, and will never be quite the same…
In that community of friends, I will miss a friend.
Upon the death of his friend Charles Williams, C.S. Lewis wrote of its impact upon him in other relationships:
In each of my friends there is something that only some other friend can fully bring out. By myself I am not large enough to call the whole man into activity; I want other lights than my own to show all his facets. Now that Charles is dead, I shall never again see Ronald's reaction to a specifically Charles joke. Far from having more of Ronald, having him "to myself" now that Charles is away, I have less of Ronald…
Lewis has given me voice here. For this is how I most remember and will thus miss Kurt. To take Lewis' words:
In each of my friends there is something that only some other friend can fully bring out. And this was true in Kurt. By myself I could never be large enough to call Kurt Glancy, the whole man into activity; I wanted other lights than my own to show all his facets. Now that Kurt is gone, I shall never again see Lis' or Jolynn's or Rori's or Heather's or Grant's or Susan's or Terry's or Kelly's or James' or Amy's (or any of our other friends') reaction to a specifically Kurt joke. Far from having more of any of those other brothers and sisters, now that Kurt has passed away, I have less of each of them. And without Kurt, each of them has less of me…
And this is very painful…
Yet even in this there is hopeful sorrow, for Lewis is again right:
In this, friendship exhibits a glorious "nearness by resemblance" to heaven itself where the very multitude of the blessed (which no man can number) increases the fruition which each of us has of God. For every soul, seeing Him in his or her own way, doubtless communicates that unique vision to all the rest. That, says an old author, is why the Seraphim in Isaiah's vision are crying "Holy, Holy, Holy" to one another (Isaiah 6:3). The more we thus share the Heavenly Bread between us, the more we shall have.
Yes, and Kurt is now making his celestial contribution. I will cry hard but happy tears with the others who love him. I will pray faithfully for Lis and his two sweet little boys…
And someday soon, I will join him on heaven's shore, and with countless others in the presence of King Jesus we will share the Heavenly Bread between us, and the more we shall have…